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Year in Review: Most Popular Posts

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Hi all —

It’s that time of year when we look back to look forward. Use the data and the lessons and the knowledge we have acquired over our fleeting lifetimes to learn what works and doesn’t work for the life and year(s) ahead.

I don’t do a ton of self-promotion. I’m a big believer in the tried and true, simple notion that if you’re good at what you do, word will get around. The organic growth I have witnessed on my blog (almost 10,000 views!) since joining WordPress in May has been encouraging. I tell myself to not get too mixed up in numbers, that this is not a popularity contest (despite what Facebook and other envy- and 15-minutes-of-fame -breeding “services” obviously push) and quality is something that builds on itself.

Starting with the best of intentions means you must work just as hard.

Writing, blogging, sharing, posting… all of these “arts” are hit and miss. The thing that keeps me going in this 21st Century world of self-disclosure is that I’m not alone: there will be posts that simply hit every mark I strive for: humor, candor, mindfulness, reflection and self-awareness. There will be some that also totally miss their marks, but I will be honest: these are posts that aren’t ready to be written or are those to which I am so close to the content that it’s hard to separate myself from it in any meaningful and translatable way.

I’m not big on fiction writing (publicly), so all my posts are true.

Enough stalling.

The top 10 most popular posts since May 27, 2012:

For the Ladies – Living and Thriving with PMDD – this humorous, candid and lengthy post written to help those who are afflicted with very deep PMS or “premenstrual dysphoric disorder” (PMDD) symptoms. I give a pretty clear picture of how PMDD manifested in me, some advice on how I deal with it and active links to help those people affected by it. PMDD is real, it’s scary as hell, and it can be managed.
Hoping the Mayans are Right – this was my post written after the Newtown murders where I hope that 12.21.12 was the “death” of the age of myopia, blame, selfishness and isolation.
Parents, Protect Your Children and My Letter to the School. – true story: I ended up “shadowing” a little kid to school one day because she was all alone on the path one morning.
After the Storm – this was written the day after “superstorm” Sandy decimated the east coast. I was utterly disgusted by the lack of awareness, the rabid and continual self-promotion on Twitter and some Facebook pages. This post is image heavy and candid (shocker).
False F(r)iendship, Feeling Unseen, Unheard and Dressing Very Old Wounds – everyone goes through life feeling like a doormat or a piece of furniture. Sometimes it’s a recurring theme in a lifetime. Here’s a way to recognize it, know you’re not alone and hopefully move on.
real – this was my “coming out” post where I shed a couple layers of my protective armor to let the world (or both my readers) know I’m not always blithe and living some fabulous life; that I have a story too.
Who – this is one of my “pages” on the blog (I have several at the masthead: who, what, when, where, why, respect, thanks and about). It’s just more about me… blah blah blah…
Justice for the Little People – I felt like William Wallace (Braveheart) when our school finally got what I’d been working my butt off for the past few years to get for the roadway in front of it. It feels good, despite the fact that the school administration is still mum about it.
Angry Rain, OldMan Car, and Tiger Mascot Suits – this is a melange of my observations one day. It includes humorous comments about the weather, my husband’s Toyota Avalon and a poignant observation of a dad returning from Afghanistan to be our school mascot.  I believe it was the beginning of what I ended up calling “Tuesday Morning Press.”
Respect – another “page” about my blog.

Collaborative posts

No blogger can exist in an island. We are a tribe that empowers and encourages our fellow tribe members… here are some of the great posts of the year written by other bloggers and me, other bloggers as guests or me on other bloggers’ sites:

Guest Blog: DeBie Hive’s Photographic Eye Turns to Fall – A nice pictorial essay on what autumn means to one of my favorite people I’ve never met.

Yesvember: Gratitude Expressed in 100 Words or Less – six brave souls and mine endeavored to write what gratitude means to them in 100 words or less.

Dome Life – How to Paint “Prince Charming” – ever wanted to know how to paint a rooster? Here’s a blog post that shows you how the famous Lillian Connelly paints one anyway… and I got to keep the piece.

Guest Blog: Breast Cancer Awareness & “Sensitarian” – my friend Sharyn shares her letter she wrote a year ago, when she was first diagnosed with breast cancer.

Guest Blogger: Good Geek Ranting – I have mad respect for Shua Smith — the dude wrote a book, “The Rise of the Dragons,” and that’s not easy. He’s also a very clever and funny writer. His blog is one of my favorites.

Go here to find me there

Go to Good Geek Ranting to Find My Guest Post … this is probably one of my most funny posts; there’s something about being on someone else’s site that is liberating for me. I get to be a little crazier, I guess. But if you didn’t see this one – please go. Especially if you like Alice Cooper without makeup.

I’m Guest Blogging Today at DeBie Hive – lots of pics; this explains why I row and what I get from it. It’s about the meditative effects of the sport and how it feeds my soul.

Peevish Penman Post: How Forcing NaNoWriMo Can Break a Barbie – I’m thrilled and flattered to have been asked to be a regular contributor to a great writer’s blog called “Peevish Penman” and I will always link to it on my blog. This particular post is about my tarrying over NaNoWriMo this year. It involves putting Barbie’s head in a vise. Jealous?

My favorites

This is actually pretty hard. I’ve had a blog for almost two years and the posts are stacking up. My timing is random, my “themes” are random, but I’m seeing some patterns and that’s fine by me. I don’t know how to pick just a few. But I’ll give you some really old ones that remind me of why I started this in the first place.

taking my own advice. – my first post ever.

when you’re five years old – every 5 year old should feel like this is familiar territory; and the parent of five year olds need to remember what it’s like and not foist absurd expectations on to their kiddos.

shopping cart from hell – that’s right. read it.

raffle basket and beans – what happens when you look away.

perfect mother? no. not even close. – oy. I love my mom, but our relationship is not the easiest; we boast two totally different personalities. I am glad to have learned over the years that I’m not alone in that realm.

When the Bough Breaks: Forcing – this post earned me an award and was one of the last ones I wrote before I almost gave up on blogging due to some really insane and childish behavior by someone “in the field.”

Dear Things 1, 2 & 3: Don’t Tell the Neighbors, but Your Father Lives – I love my husband. He’s a great dad. Here’s why.

the toothpaste aisle from hell – yes. Don’t tell me you’ve got that aisle all figured out.

Marvelous Monday: Amazing Things – this is me: “If the sight of the blue skies fills you with joy, if a blade of grass springing up in the fields has power to move you, if the simple things in nature have a message you understand, rejoice, for your soul is alive.” – Eleanora Duse. I talk about it, my fascination and gratitude for “the everyday” in this post.

Go With Your Gut or What Happens When You Don’t – all i have to say: when your intuition says “don’t do that” — DON’T DO THAT.

she missed his final breath. – my neighbor died of metastatic lung cancer. this is about his surviving wife.

Two posts caught the eye of other bloggers the most this year. A Brie recipe, for obvious reasons, so here’s that… http://wp.me/p2tc3X-19k

And a quick post I wrote about some parent’s confusion between online sharing and jeopardizing their children’s safety. Just my opinion: http://wp.me/p2tc3X-ZU

There. This is all I’m gonna throw at you. Although I’m not big on self-promotion, once I write that book, I’ll have to be better about it. In the meantime, I’m going to try it stone by stone. What’s up for 2013? Some cool stuff actually: I’ll be posting fiction on Fridays and in January, I’m going to be part of a fiction writing prompt. I’ll be here, doing my random thing. I’m going to endeavor to keep all posts to less than 1,500 words. (I’m six shy now).

Thank you so much for joining me here.

Awards! Awards! Three Posts in Won!

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Hello readers!

I’m back to introduce you to some of the friends I’ve made online.

They are writers, artists, imbibers, teetotalers, scoundrels and healers — every single one of ’em.

I have recently been the lucky recipient of three awards: The Liebster (again! thankew-thankew!) Award; the Versatile Blogger Award and the Very Inspiring Blogger Award.  Each of these awards has their own criterion and I’m supposed to let each winner know they’ve won. I’m a little overwhelmed by that and I don’t want to have both my readers resent me for glutting their inbox (were they brave enough to subject themselves to a mail subscription, you poor dears) so I’m trying to figure out a way to put each category on the same post. It might be possible.

I possess genius, so it is possible.

Wait… wait. If you’re coming to this post and looking for your award, please go back home and hide under your bed.

No, there’s gotta be a simpler way to do this… I’m sure I’m breaking all manner of rules in doing it this way, but I’m out of ideas… please read this post – especially if I linked you back to me. If you see yourself listed, feel free to participate. And if you do, click on the art and add it to your post when you recommend other bloggers. (If you have technical problems with this, please let me know.)

If not, know that I love you anyway and that I’ll always be proud of those moments we shared in biology class with the bunsen burner. My scars are almost invisible now. Yours?

Let’s get going…

Liebster Blogger Award: I was nominated for this by a tribal partner, Lillian Connelly, at It’s A Dome Life. She writes. She paints. She’s a Mom. She lives in a dome. I couldn’t be prouder and I adore her. I appreciate the honor.

The catch is, however, that it’s a chain letter wrapped in an award. It should be the other way around if it’s truly a chain letter: you get the award AFTER you submit to all the copying, inserting the dollar, addressing and stamping. I’m waiting for some sort of Internet Act to come along and prohibit these events. But in the meantime, we will push through. Thank you It’s a Dome Life for the nod!

The Rules

  1. Each person must post 11 things about themselves.
  2. Answer the 11 questions the person giving the award has set for you.
  3. Create 11 questions for the people you will be giving the award to.
  4. Choose 11 people to award and send them a link to your post.  Go to their page and tell them.
  5. No tag backs.

11 Facts about me

  1. I have a thing about sharpened kitchen knives. If it is not sharp, I won’t use it. I have spent a modest sum on sharpening devices.
  2. I like to vacuum. When I do no one comes near me. Just like when I sharpen knives. Sometimes I vacuum when the knives are sharp.
  3. I have two cats: Gandalf the Gray and Beezer Elizabeth Googleberry Nut-head.
  4. My dog Murphy is my best friend. He knows everything about me and won’t tell anyone.
  5. I insist on good lighting in the kitchen. No lighting, no me.
  6. I wrote a book over the summer. It’s sitting in a binder on my shelf. Still. Needs work.
  7. I love Starbucks Green Tea Frappucinos; no whip.
  8. I have a ton of exercise equipment in my house. What do I use most these days? The sculling shell at the boathouse or my yoga mat.
  9. I love listening to comedians on the radio and my TV seldom leaves NBC.
  10. I have two brothers, three sons and no sister or daughter.
  11. I love lemon cake with chocolate frosting.

My 11 Questions to answer

  1. What’s better, being an adult or being a child? Being alive.
  2. How many pairs of shoes do you own? Do sandals and boots count or are we going strictly shoes? Less than 30.
  3. If space travel became possible for the average person, would you go? No.
  4. If you were given a large sum of money to donate to a charity of your choice, which charity would you choose? Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation; people make jokes about diabetes — it’s not funny, trust me.
  5. Reality TV: Good or Bad? Good but only if you don’t watch it; then it’s terrible.
  6. If you could be a character in a book which character would you be and why? I would be Scarlett O’Hara because we’re both moxie-filled limit-pushers.
  7. What is the weirdest food you have ever eaten? I’d have to say the tiny squid also known as calamari.
  8. What laundry detergent do you use? Random. I use Arm & Hammer with OxiClean boost, if you must know.
  9. Do you think aliens exist? Yes. Just not here. That would be weird. Although I do suspect some people in my ‘hood….
  10. Chocolate or Vanilla? Yes.
  11. What is the worst job you have ever had? I worked for a government contractor … no that wasn’t me. I worked at a shoe store in high school and the Old Men (in their 40s!) I worked with were slimy and disgusting. They said something about “not kicking her [me] out of bed for eating crackers” and I was all like, “Why would I get kicked out of bed for eating crackers, bitches?”

My Questions for the future Liebsters:

  1. Are you a dog, bird or cat person? Why
  2. Favorite ice cream presentation: hard packed or soft serve? Cake cone or sugar cone?
  3. Favorite time of day: dawn or eventide?
  4. What do you like most in others?
  5. What is the most frustrating part of your craft?
  6. What do you do for exercise?
  7. What is your favorite personal quality in yourself?
  8. Is where you are right now in your life where you expected to be?
  9. What would you change, if you could, about your life per your answer above?
  10. What is the greatest sorrow you have experienced?
  11. What is your greatest joy?

11 People I’m Awarding (in no particular rank, order or preference):

  1. Stacie Brown – she’s a single mom working full time and getting her degree… in Texas! show this girl some love!
  2. lifeloveandyoga – her style reminds me of my writing sometimes, ‘cept she’s more concise.
  3. Susanne’s world – her journey is her own and she’s the queen of “ohana”; she gets what it means when we say “family.”
  4. Storeylines – great writer, great spirit and a story or two to tell; check out her stories about her fledgling nun-dom.
  5. Love your Movies – cool reviews and comments; and not just about new releases. Today, they’re chatting about “The Shawshank Redemption,” one of my personal favorites.
  6. Not Blessed Mama – she defends places like Chuck E. Cheese with reason and intelligence. just don’t go on weekends.
  7. Bucket List Publications – fun pics of what you’d do if you had a bucket list. She’s 31 and has been to 34 countries. check her out and submit your pics too….
  8. Her Royal Wineness – she’s back writing a blog and her restrictive family has no idea this time!
  9. Mommy Drinks Because You Cry – i love this person. she’s funny as crap. and yes, crap is funny. poor thing, she’s part of the tribe.
  10. DeBie Hive – because we were separated at birth. tribe member… i love her.
  11. Good Geek Ranting – because he’s hilarious and out of the boxy;  you need hilarious and out of the boxy. You just do.
Happy Liebstering! Winners: Click on the image above and paste into your post (should you decide to write one). And you can put it as a badge on your blog.  Please don’t hate me!
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Versatile Blogger Award: Again, I’d like to thank the lovely Lillian Connelly at It’s A Dome Life for this honor. She’s a sweetie! 🙂 If you haven’t checked her out yet, do. She’s an amazing artist. I mean, like …. amazing and she mostly taught herself which to me is cosmically unfair. She reminds me of what we can do when we have a pencil, some time and patience.

I also think she was really including me in this (as an extra credit bonus) because if there’s one thing I am, it’s versatile, which is:  adaptable, flexible, all-around, multifaceted, multitalented, resourceful; adjustable, multipurpose, all-purpose, handy; rare polytropic. I also think it’s a really nice way of saying I’m completely random. Which is sorta like life, now ain’t it? 

How It Works:

  • If you are nominated, you’ve been awarded the Versatile Blogger award.
  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and include a link to their site.
  • Copy and paste the award to your blog.
  • Share 7 random facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 15 bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or follow regularly and include a link to their site.
  • Let the other Bloggers know that you have nominated them.

So now I am supposed to tell you seven random facts about myself, so here goes:

  1. When Lillian disclosed that she had a box full of cards and personal memorabilia in her basement, she reminded me that I do too and that I wish to have mine completely untouched and cremated with me after I die.
  2. I get bent out of shape every once in a while (read: frequently) about the lack of ecological awareness everywhere and that people STILL use bottled water…
  3. I still have a pair of rollerblades in my closet.
  4. I plan to wear my GPS watch during an entire day to see how much I walk around and do on this planet on a typical day.
  5. I have two cats (I told you about them above) and I like one way more than the other. One is nice, the other’s a dick.
  6. My favorite color is periwinkle.
  7. I have an affection for anything green tea scented, flavored, or colored; I love the smell of fresh cut grass.
  8. I want to decoupage my powder room in The New Yorker covers; the illustrated girl on the cover from my birthday in 2006 looks like me (and yes, I would manage to get my luggage trapped in a revolving door)*:

*This one is for extra credit. (Lillian did an extra credit one, I wanted to too)

Here are 11  Bloggers (the original is 15, but I’m consolidating 3 posts / 3 awards into one post, so I get to say how this goes down) I Nominate because of their versatility and awesomeness: 

  1. August McLaughlin – she’s a writer’s writer, former (should still be, she’s gorgeous) model, and she knows a lot about nutrition. I’m hooked.
  2. Clotilda Jamcracker – just go to her; she’s amazing and her ability to turn a story from one incident into another is a delightful thing to witness. with a name like “Clotilda Jamcracker” you can’t lose… you know this.
  3. Happiness in this World – a buddhist physician who’s seeking out happiness in America. ’nuff said; he’s publishing a book this fall, The Undefeated Mind; I’ve been following Dr. Lickerman for about three years; he’s pretty cool and swift.
  4. Health Demystified – another medical / health fitness resource. Eric is a doctoral candidate in pharmacology this year.
  5. The Weiler Psi – woo-woo stuff, very cool, about psychics and skeptics and woo-woo.
  6. The Truth Warrior – Right now, he’s probably still in Spain after being let go from his job a couple months ago. He decided to live the life he has; check him out. I hope we’ll hear back from him soon.
  7. …the lucky one… – and she is. I know Elisa personally and she’s an inspiration to me daily. She’s like 15 minutes old and she’s already achieved so much. Elisa for president (when she’s old enough) – she is about to launch a holistic food and wellness company… check her out.
  8. Peevish Penman – they are writers who write about writing in a way that makes you want to write even if you think you can’t. The current post, “Are You a Real Writer?” is ha-ha-hilarious.
  9. Plucky Chicken Heart – Mari is a funny lady who won my heart with her cartoony periwinkle cat; now she’s into graffiti-ing pages out of vintage editions of Dickens; she’s a gal after my own plucky heart, what can I say?
  10. hovercraftdoggy – these people barely use words but their pics are cool and design-y. fun, whimsical and uplifting images.
  11. Stuff Worth Talking About – Doug Kleeman won me over with his post, “The Limitations of ‘Like’” – he’s got a good bead on how media and branding shape our world; if you’re asleep on this subject, don’t worry: Doug’s not.

Enjoy your rewards, people! I hope you can convince the people in your life how special you are and that you deserve celebrity status today. Put the button on your blog with pride.

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And last but not least (in the least)

The Very Inspiring Blogger Award (Keeping the Blogosphere a Beautiful Place) : This one goes back to last month when the lovely Stacie Brown (from above – I’m just cutting and pasting as it’s 9:42pm my blah blah time and I’m about ready to take blah blah hostages on this post: Stacie Brown – she’s a single mom working full time and getting her degree… in Texas! show this girl some love!…) was kind enough to blah blah nominate me. And she was. And she still is kind enough! I’m just sorta beat… I’ve been at this on and off since 11am and well, here are the winners I nominate and I love them all blah blah because I compiled this list about 8 hours ago, so I still mean it when I list them!

Here are the rules:

The Very Inspiring Blogger Award is an award given out by people who got one themselves and they give it out to 10 people again and so on…ok this sounds a bit confusing, but read on and you will get it :) To accept the award you have to follow some steps. They are:

  • Link back to the person who nominated you (yep done)
  • Post the award image to your page (done!)
  • Tell seven facts about yourself (see below)
  • Nominate 10 other blogs (see below) — JUST TEN!?! I’VE BEEN RESCUED! 
  • Let them know they are nominated

I’ll start with the 7 facts:

Well, wouldn’t ya know it…? I’ve already done the random facts that this award requests and I’ve done the questions. So… let’s get to the heart of the matter, shall we? 
  1. Tempo Life Coaching – Carrie is simply cool. She’s a triathlete, a life coach, a mom and a realist. That’s the hottest part of all.
  2. CarrTalks – Jody has been a good friend and mentor to me. She is a published writer, an empath and an intuitive. She has spirit guides (we all do) but she is in communication with hers … and yours if you ask her about them.
  3. Oneanna65 – cancer survivor and funny, grateful writer. She’s great – her attitude is the best: smile smile smile and truth truth truth.
  4. Peggy Arvidson – I’ve known Peggy for about three years. I met her at a Hallowe’en event nearby and she won me over the moment we met; she’s a life coach, she’s also an intuitive and a non-predictive palmist. She knew me a long time ago… we’re sure of it.
  5. Five Little Monkeys – Sarah’s got this writing gig down. She’s a part of my tribe, she’s got a big heart and a positive attitude and FIVE CHILDREN. her oldest is a teenager. Yay… Check her out!
  6. Craughing – “craughing” is the act of crying and laughing simultaneously or y’know close enough in time. if you know the craughing blog already, you’ll know how beautiful and vulnerable she is. If not, you’ll see: she’s got the heart of a lion and the touch of a dove. She’s seen some crazy shit in her life and she’s here to tell us life goes on.
  7. Breathing Space – If I look this good when I’m a grandmother, I’m gonna be so psyched! She’s awesome and she’s all over the map. I dig that. You will too.
  8. Journal of Gorzyisms – She is a traveler, a single mom of a newly teenage son, a vlogger and an artist. She has some cool pics you should check out. And I think she likes orange…
  9. The Winy Child, Inc. – check him out. He’s the real deal: little kid, inspired by Garfield has created his own comicblog.
  10. Oh Boys! – Megan is a mom of two little guys; her posts remind me of the old days and I figure I am proof she can do it…

i’m out. i hear my family laughing at a “30 Rock” rerun. i have to stop now.
Check out these pages sometime and tell them I sent ya…

Thank you … really, thank you for reading! 🙂